To Build Better Relationships, Address Emotional Hunger
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The quality of every relationship depends on attending well to emotional needs.  That's because emotional hungers drive the actions of each person in a relationship whether or not they know it. To have a healthy relationship, to avoid relationship problems, to gain emotional support or improve a relationship that's ailing, address these hidden hungers, starting with the four essential steps described here.
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 to build better relationships , address emotional hunger the quality of every relationship depends on attending well to these emotional needs by pamela levin teaching &amp supervising transactional analyst emeritus r elationships are the very heart of our lives, and even though our very health and well-being depends on them working well, we often overlook a fundamental truth about them that has everything to do with how well they succeed and whether or not they fail that truth is that emotional hungers - often hidden ones - drive the actions of the people involved and when the parties in a relationship make choices based on these emotional needs to which they remain oblivious - well, the predicted outcome can is likely to become a first class mess words like accusations, recriminations, arguments, stony silences, frozen feelings, illicit affairs come to mind not what anybody would consciously choose if they thought about it so, what s the alternative is there a better way yes, indeed it s a simple, step-by-step process 1 first, accept that having emotional hungers is normal everyone has them this means there s no need to freak out or create any drama or emergency about them you won t die if you admit to having yours 2 allow yourself to gradually become aware of what these emotional hungers are that have been driving your behavior without you realizing it at this stage, just admit them to yourself don t communicate them yet to anyone else, as you don t know how they might react 3 then, take responsibility for them - in other words, own, rather than disowning or pushing them away these are my emotional hungers and therefore it is up to me to find safe and effective ways to take care of them 4 commit yourself to the ongoing process of keeping yourself emotionally well-nourished the benefit of keeping yourself in a state of positive emotional sustenance cannot be over-emphasized one benefit is feeling good in yourself you feel your core self developing, your individuality blooming in a positive way another is that you re changing for the better the internal, environmental signals that elicit the behavior of your cells - and therefore you will produce better physical health yet perhaps the area where the positive effect is most profound is in your social relationships remove the stress from trying to get something you need from the other person without you - or they - knowing what that is, and your relationships automatically improve that s because you re no longer relating from an emotionally needy place then, too, as your state of emotional nourishment improves, you become full enough to offer emotional nourishment in your relationships in short, you just can t lose if you feel stuck about how you might take care of your emotional hungers - if you feel like you don t have a clue, or if you have some clues but would like to be reminded, don t worry you don t have to go bacl to school, or even to some group, seminar or workshop you can sample three core emotional nutrients - messages that feed key aspects of your core emotional self - go to http //www youremotionalnutrients com and click on the sample you ll find a key emotional nutrient that nourishes your core self, another that feeds your independent self and supports your making healthy boundaries, and a third that nurtures your skillfulness you can listen as many times as you want, and they re free the bottom line is that you always have those as an option - even if you wake up emotionally hungry at 2 in the morning copyright &copy 2017 all rights reserved